I'm going to start this off with a disclaimer:
I am a guy. I am built with an eye toward sexual things. Give a guy a flash of skin, and he'll start drooling like a blonde looking at something shiny.
Having said that, I'll delve into a little story and then to my point. Or, you can skip over these paragraphs and go straight to the point. I don't care.
I was turning in my rent check today to the leasing office of my apartment complex. Usually, there's a receptionist behind the desk that flashes a smile and the requisite, "How may I help you?". However, today, there was this college-age girl sitting behind the desk, intently fiddling with something on her computer screen. The screen temporarily blocked my view of her since its so huge. But as I approached the desk to fork over my check, I was struck at her state of attire.
She was dressed in a blue top and black pants. That I'm fine with. She had a professional demeanor. That I'm fine with too. What I'm not fine with was the fact that her chest was being pushed out of her low-cut neckline top. While, being male, I'm not objecting, per se. I'm objecting to her lack of self image and professional projection.
For a while now, I've heard women's groups lobbying for equality in the workplace. These professional women project themselves well, and effectively neuter themselves in suits and conservative dresses. This woman (girl) hasn't grown up yet to adequately portray herself in a professional manor. She's still a high school girl expressing her sexuality. And what better way then to have your boobs practically falling out.
There could be lots of reasons for her to dress this way. She's naturally well endowed, so she didn't have a choice. Her clothing options were limited. She didn't have anything conservative in her closet.
Maybe it's something wrong in the way I look at people. Maybe I am too conservative. I've been trained to think that way, becoming a teacher. Maybe I should just tolerate it and enjoy the view? Or does that turn me into a sexist pig that automatically objectifies women?
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This is difficult because sometimes I wear something that I think covers everything, only to have to continuously pull things up or down because they weren't quite the same way when I sat down or did tasks that I normally do. I am "well-endowed," as you describe this woman, and truthfully, there are a lot of things I don't wear that I like because of this fact.
This girl is probably dressing like this because she feels like she looks good in it. But I agree with you that there should be professionalism in the workplace that there might not be in, let's say, a dance floor. She should save the low-cut tops for a night out.
As for feeling like a sexist pig for looking at what she is "displaying," I think you have to put that out of your mind. Unless you are sexually harassing her, staring perhaps too intently, I think you are not doing anything that a normal man wouldn't do. You like women.
Good post. Keep 'em coming.
Oh, and I add your blog to my favorite's section on my blog. :)
Thank you for that. It's alway comforting for someone outside your family to tell you that you're normal.
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